Not as sad as this thread.
and yet i'm still inclined to post. Your gothic furry wedding idea is retarded. For a start, who the **** would show up? This is the problem I had during my wedding last year. I like whiskey and rock music. I wanted a hard rock style theme, bottles of jack daniels on the tables, best men in leathers, loads of fantastic ideas. I planned it, costed it and thought it would be awesome, but then came the guest list, and it put a huge dent in the plan. I don't have alot of friends, and frankly I figured less than 5% of the guest list would have appreciated such a concept.
So I caved in, handed it over to the mrs and she got a more traditional approach. I just accepted that it was way more her day than mine.
The only way to do anything unique or really out there like you seem to want to is to either do it with very few people (and to me thats kinda pointless,) or if you have alot of friends, (you don't. I'd put money on it.)